Beauty in Afghanistan

Afghanistan is one of the places I always wished to go to. Little I know about it. Besides the contemporary wartime and a short recall history in my mind, that runs from the ’80s till today, I had no idea how marvelous this country is. For some reason, my thoughts reminded me, a glimpse of stories my grandpa used to tell us when we were kids. Afghanistan’s spectacular beauty stuns unexpectedly most of us, as we expect violence, suffering, and terrible poverty.

Individualization is here to stay

What emerges from the fading social norms is naked, frightened, aggressive ego in search of love and help. In the search for itself and an affectionate sociality, it easily gets lost in the jungle of the self. Someone who is poking around in the fog of his or her own self is no longer capable of noticing that this isolation, this ‘solitary confinement of the ego’ is a mass sentence.

Oscar de La Renta BR2019

{Alice: how long is forever?
White Rabbit:
sometimes, just one second.}
Lewis Carol

The new wedding dress collection designed by Fernando Garcia and Laura Kim is refreshingly diverse. There are elegant gowns,  being “very Oscar”: strapless ball gowns with “scattered” embroideries and gestural details, like a soft bow in the back or a wrap-effect sweetheart bodice. The handful of long-sleeved gowns were a response to brides who are looking for more coverage, particularly in the Middle East.

As well as the introduction of demi-couture gowns, which made up about half of this collection. They’ll be made to order, with room for customization: Consider the long-sleeved, allover lace gown with a semi-sheer skirt, which could likely be lengthened, lined for more coverage, or embroidered with metallic or colorful threads. Another look in the demi-couture group was covered in hand-embroidered flowers with a strapless, V-neck bodice and giant tulle sash. Those gowns mark a refreshing new direction for Garcia and Kim at a time when fashion is becoming increasingly fast-paced, machine-made, and distant-feeling. 

Let the Journey Begin

We have all heard that no two snowflakes are alike. Each snowflake takes the perfect form for the maximum efficiency and effectiveness for its journey. And while the universal force of gravity gives them a shared destination, the expansive space in the air gives each snowflake the opportunity to take their own path. They are on the same journey, but each takes a different path. Along with this gravity-driven journey, some snowflakes collide and damage each other, some collide and join together, some are influenced by the wind; there are so many transitions and changes that take place along the journey of the snowflake. But, no matter what the transition, the snowflake always finds itself perfectly shaped for its journey. 

I find parallels in nature to be a beautiful reflection of grand orchestration. One of these parallels is of snowflakes and us. We, too, are all headed in the same direction. We are being driven by a universal force to the same destination. We are all individuals taking different journeys and along our journey, we sometimes bump into each other, we cross paths, we become altered; we take different physical forms. But at all times we too are 100% perfectly imperfect. At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey. I’m not perfect for your journey and you’re not perfect for my journey, but I’m perfect for my journey and you’re perfect for your journey. We’re heading to the same place, we’re taking different routes, but we’re both exactly perfect the way we are. 

Think of what understanding this great orchestration could mean for relationships. Imagine interacting with others knowing that they too each share this parallel with the snowflake. Like you, they are headed to the same place and no matter what they may appear like to you, they have taken the perfect form for their journey. How strong our relationships would be if we could see and respect that we are all perfectly imperfect for our journey.” 
― Steve Maraboli, Life the truth and being Free